Five Minute Assertiveness Quiz

Using these numbers, give each statement a number which indicates how you usually handle situations.

            Never          Rarely         Sometimes         Usually         Always
               1                 2                   3                      4                 5

1. I can refuse unreasonable request from friends.
2. I am comfortable asking people to return money they have borrowed.
3. I can defend my point of view to someone whom I respect who disagrees with me.
4. I am able to make decisions easily.
5. I can return unsatisfactory merchandise to the store.
6. I can refuse high-pressure sales people with a definite “No.”
7. I can take criticism without becoming defensive.
8. I can object when I sense I am being treated unfairly.
9. I can speak out in the midst of a group of people without undue anxiety.
10. I can complain about an unreasonable workload.
11. I can be direct about asking for help or a favour (instead of just hinting).
12. I am able to openly express love or affection.
13. I am able to express my feeling when someone does something that bothers me.
14. I can ask my roommate/partner to assume a fairer share of the housework.
15. I can accept a compliment graciously without making it less in my mind.
16.  I am able to request expected service when it is not forthcoming (e.g. in a restaurant or store).
17. I can tell a person when I think he/she is trying to control me.
18. I can turn down a request for a meeting or date.
19. I can maintain eye contact and keep my head upright in a personal conversation.
20. I can make the first move toward starting a friendship with someone I am getting to know.
21. I am (or would be) a good role model of assertiveness for my own child.
22. I can accept my own mistakes and limitations.
23. I am able to negotiate salary/wage increases and changes in job description.
24. I can insist that my landlord (mechanic, repairman, etc.) make repairs, adjustments, replacements which are his responsibility.

TOTAL SCORE   _________

What does your score indicate?
95-120     Assertive
75-95       Moderately Assertive
50-75       Inconsistently Assertive
Under 50  Needs Practice